First steps to a better life
We all have parts of our lives we are not happy with. When there are aspects we want or at least feel we should change some third party guidelines might help. When you need help the first you need to ask is yourself..
Helping your self suceed
1 ) Look for your true desires
Society has a way, I have learnt, looking at my kids growing of making people pretend to be what they are not, to desire what the media wants, to fit in roles pre-defined by society. These pigeon holes called stereotypes are roles the media presents to people and children by hammering these frames of reference in people’s minds.
2 ) Select the few people you trust and respect and make time for them
Very few people around you are “really” trustworthy. Friends who always “help” when it costs nothing but cannot be firm ground when you falter are rare. Lot’s of people fill you with compliments or maybe get you a beer or two. The real people you can trust are those who spend time with you and challenge you for your thoughts, people you can drop you deepest fear with and they would help you work over it rather than re-inforce your fears.
Steer away from puppeteers. You know who those are, they are, the ortchestrators, egoistic self centered “master minds” who use everyone aroud them to define their lives. These people are suckers and will draw you down like a vortex. When they see you turn against them their reaction will be to try to isolate you so you don’t steal their lime light.
3 ) Keep your house or living area clean and clear.
Basic feng shui 101 :
Qi (pronounced “chee” in English) is a movable positive or negative life force which plays an essential role in feng shui.
Now before you say this is a pile of B.S. or mumbo jumbo take a look at these two life spaces and then imagine life in each.
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The difference is the flow. Scientifically people, crowds, flocks and traffic objects in a house all follow standard simple brownian behaviors. Basically it means they behave like gasses or liquids.
The fundamental rules are simple :
a) no clutter
b) no sharp edges
c) lots of light and open space
d) add order to everything you do
well and many many more but that’s another chat ..
More to come in another blog.
4 ) Invest your time and money in things that nourish your soul.
Your passions, hobbies, family are the things that prop you up, they nourish your soul. These are the aspects of life that make you a deeper and richer person. Lucky people have these things co-incide and they can spare time but not all are so fortunate.
5 ) Actively search for jobs and sctivities that evolve.
Dead ends are exactly that but do not need to be roads they could be jobs, relationships with people, financial investments, make your time and life trustworthy.
6 ) Stop whining that you cannot get anything done and just do it already.
Most people (including myself) whine that they cannot get thing they deem important done. In reality it’s not that we do not have the time it’s the priority we give to thing and how important the things really are. When we say we have no time to do this or that it usually means we gave importance to other stuff even if it’s just TV. If you “REALLY!!” want something then you don’t need to make time for it, it makes time for itself. The real problem is find the things that drive you. So if you think something is important then just quit the talking about it and do it. Wake early, steal time, write on your smart phone in the loo, anything you can prepare and think about the target activity to improve it. We waste so much time every day, and we daze watching movies reading newspapers listening to music, driving etc.. Time to unwind is important but control is important.
7 ) Time things right.
This one is easier said than done it takes experience to time things. A good starting point is to take note of actions timing and consequences. Looking at the effects of timing comments, actions etc.. and taking a mental note to learn from this.
8 ) Plan but don’t over plan.
Well this just explains itself. Control freaks suffer here. The trick is let some go you’ll have much less of a burden.
9 ) Be optimistic.
I know it usually looks like there is such a thing like luck and there probably is but determination and focus are so much more important and influential on forming our futures. IF you do not believe you can achieve something there is much less chance of success
10 ) Prepare to loose what you love so you do not take it for granted.
Love is attachment and attachmet leads to pain that’s one side of the coin… I see it that when you take something for granted and assume it always going to be there you automatically passively drift awayfrom it. Renewing your interest and your care for what you love replaces static comfort with appreication and that makes everything so much more worth having.
Many more, I know, but you need to start right ?
Love this article very well structured, there are so many points to be taken here, and that I would really love to expand on, that probably I would end up creating a blog for each separate step. A good read mentioning in further retrospect quite a few of the above would include: “It’s all in your head – Thinking your way to Happiness” by Stephen M. Pollan and Mark Levine & “Keys to power prosperity” by Alan Tutt, if you haven’t read these already I would highly recommend as I believe they would be of great interest to you.
Thanks for the reading hints..
I’ll see to find time read and comment later.
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